Monday, September 21, 2009

Can Anyone Be Trusted?

What is your reaction to the Cupid And Psyche myth's proclamation about "trust" within relationships?

27 comments:

HayleyG said...

I don't think anyone can be trusted and I don't think you can have a good relationship without trust. Trust is something that should be earned, not just given freely to anyone. Relationships are completely based off of trust; it holds them together. If you don't trust someone you're not going to tell them the little things about you that not very many people know. I think these days trust is given out too easily, just because someone has never done wrong to you I don't think you should give them your trust, I think they need to prove they are worthy of it.

C to tha OLE Ken said...

Some say the only people you can honestly trust are those in your family. Although at times even those closest to you can break your trust. Therefore there is no one you can completley trust. There are certaint situations where you can trust someone, but to completley trust another person would take alot. In the end everyones number one concern is themselves, and there is always a chance that they will break the trust you thought you had to benifet themselves.

Mphair said...

I think (hypothetically) that trust/love goes through stages, like growing up. It begins unconditionally, without a knowledge basis, like "puppy love". It then progresses to the "comming of age" state when there is the test...possibly a break in the unconditional trust like Cupid and Psyche. Finally is the stage of solid trust/love. This is the "true love" of stories (maybe???)that withstands the test of time.

MikeW. said...

I believe trust can be earned, but nowadays, it's very easy to acquire trust from someone. A person must be respected before they can be trusted so that's why promiscuous boys and girls aren't trusted very easily. A relationship should be built upon trust and trust is usually earned over a long period of time. If you rush things in a relationship, the relationship will not last because of lack of trust. I personally think that REAL trust is only earned by people you love. Your spouse and blood relatives are some examples of the people you should trust.

NatalieJ said...

So far everyone has mentioned in one way or another that trust is to easy to earn today. I would have to disagree, I'll use myself as an example. I have some major trust issues. At the Link Crew Challenge Course that I participated in a few weeks back I had to complete trust exercises with a group of people that I didn't know well at all. I had to close my eyes, lean back, let the group pick me up and then move me. I was very hesitant of this because I truly trust very few people. I do think that there are smaller ways of trusting someone, like hoping they keep a secret, but to fully trust someone is to have complete faith in them. True love requires complete trust.

Dalton said...

i think that trust is the key factor in a relationship, you can like somebody alot but if you are constantly worried about what they are doing and if they are lying to you the relationship will fall apart in a matter of time. trust is gained over time and effort because you have to gain trust. in this story cupid shows that trust must be earned by telling syce to love him but she cant see him and she doubts and then she loses his trust. i think this is a problem in todays life people are either to lazy or dont want to put the effort in to gain trust and this is why in our time devorces have become so common compared to or grandparent time we have been raised up in a society where people are just given things and we have bocome lazy

BryceR said...

The only time, I believe, that there would be love with no trust would be 'love at first sight', but that is a whole different issue on its own. I believe it would not be true love because to truly love someone, one must give part of the heart to the other person, and the only way to let that go would be to trust the other person. Trust comes through time, and knowing a person. Love is still a very hazy subject as love is often indescribable.

Tabitha M said...

I believe people can be trusted, but you can't trust others if you're not a trustful person also. Psyche was curious and I would have done the exact same thing sooner. Cupid was untrustful to her by hiding his identity the entire time. Psyche wanted to know the whole Cupid, which he was hiding from her. Those types of barriers are impossible to keep trust in a relationship. It was bond to happen if he couldn't be honest himself.

danielb2010 said...

Anyone can earn trust but is it really possible to keep trust? I don't think it is. Everyone has a point where trust no longer takes hold of them but the go on instinct and reaction of the soul. (Yes we all have one.) Everyone has a point where they can no longer rely on just trust and then we have to find something new to believe in. We have to believe that we can trust someone or else we have to know that that person is someone our soul sees eye to eye with or our soul will refuse them everytime. So Trust isn't always the biggest thing in a relationship. I think the biggest thing is that our soul recognizes them.

ElizabethG said...

The "Cupid and Psyche" myth was interesting to me. Cupid originally trusted Psyche not to look at him, but then she broke his trust and in the long run, Psyche earned Cupid's trust back. Psyche performed a bunch of deeds, but I don't think they earned Cupid's trust back, he was locked up in Aphrodite's house. I think all the nights that Cupid spent away from Psyche caused his heart to ache and he wanted to return to her. He had to make sure that he could trust in her, and she obviously trusted him, but it was love that brought them back together. I believe that trust fluctuates, one action you do may prove you trustworthy while another action proves you untrustworthy, and love is based on trust, but you can still love someone when a majority of the trust is gone. When the majority of the trust is gone, the relationship has to be rebuilt, or it will dissolve, and the love will vanish.

ChristinaC said...
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ChristinaC said...

I thought that Psyche was curious and you know how that saying goes with "curiosity kills the cat". I think thats what had happened and every once in a while people do get curious. I believe that trusts is what builds up in a relationship. Obviously you wouldn't have dated him/her if you didn't trust them to begin with. Also it takes years to build up someones complete and utter trust but it takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it.

ShelbyG said...

I don't think you would have a good relationship if there was no trust, in fact I don't think there would be any love. When you love someone, you completely give yourself to that person, and giving yourself involves trust. You wouldn't sell your heart away if you didn't trust the person. Psyche had to earn Cupid's trust, which is exactly why he left her the first time.

TrevorRo said...

I don't see how a good relationship can occur without trust. Also, if you don't trust the person you are in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with, I don't think you can necessarily fall in love with them either. The two kinda come hand in hand in my opinion. You should trust your family and closest friends, which is why you say you love them, but when a friend betrays you, you can't say you love them for the moment because you lost their trust. The trust usually comes back though because no one wants to lose friends over one incident.

MeganOD said...

In the story "Cupid and Psyche", Cupid askes Psyche to trust him without giving her a reason to trust him. Having trust in a person is the step between have an acquaintance and having a true frienship with a person. A true relationship cannot go anywhere without trust. Personally, I don't believe that trust should be handed out as easily as Cupid believed that Psyche should trust him. Trust is something that needs to grow overtime.

LauraM said...

In the myth, “Cupid and Psyche,” Cupid proclamates that “Love cannot live where there is no trust.” I would agree with this one hundred percent. First of all, I believe that these days people throw around the word love carelessly all the time without really meaning it. Love is a strong word, a special word that should be used with the utmost care and discretion, only if you truly mean it. Second I think there are several levels to trust. First you have the basic level of trust you give to pretty much everyone. You trust people to be honest with you, demonstrate common courtesy, etc., unless you have seen some behavior that would indicate otherwise, then not giving them that basic, you’re another human being trust. Next there is the trust that you give when you can confide personal details to someone else and not be concerned about their security. You would trust that person to take care of your belongings or a member of your family. This trust you have discretion of who receives it; friends, family, etc. There are varying degrees of these first two trusts. Lastly there is the trust where you would put your life in another persons hands. You believe in them so completely that in a dire situation you would go with their judgment even if your gut is telling you otherwise, because you have that much faith in them. You would completely surrender yourself to them; you trust them one hundred percent with no fog of doubt in your mind. This is the kind of trust you have with true love. Some people say that you can still love someone and not completely trust them; or loose a little faith in them but still have love. I don’t think this is so. This kind of “love” without complete trust is not true love, but rather a fixation with that person that allows some room for uncertainty. However I do think that you can love someone and be disappointed with them, but you cannot love someone if there is no trust. There is a difference. I agree with Cupid in that there can be no love without trust. Trust is something that has to move through the stages stated above and be gained over time. I do think that trust can be rebuilt and love can come again. However I don’t really see how Psyche earned back cupids trust and therefore love, because all the tasks she preformed were for his mother Aphrodite, not Cupid?

JR_Hanson said...

I think that you can trust someone only after hey have been proven that you can trust them. In order to do this you will have to trust someone and then you can see if they can be trusted. Even your family has to prove that they can be trusted. And anyone who can be trusted one day, can be not trusted the next. Trust is hard to gain but easy to lose.

Tyler M said...

Well in the Greek Mythology book I dont think anyone can be trusted and you cant have a great relationship without trust. Trust should be something we need to earn by our loved ones who we love, they are completely based on trust, its what holds relationships together. Another question you have to ask is that can someone keep trust because if that person cant be trusted then how are we able to love them? They should be able to prove themselves.

kevint said...
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kevint said...

I have had personal experience with trust in relationships just like many of you have. A relationship is based mainly off of the trust you have in your partner and she or he has in you.If you do let your guard down to trust someone I wouldn't let it down all the way,just like in john lylys poem cupid is defeated by campaspe, she thinks she is doing well for her and her lover but in reality she has torn them apart due to defeating love it self, cupid.

CamilleH said...

I think that love can not exist where there is not trust. In order to truly love someone, you need to be able to trust them 100%. If there is no trust, its not love its just infatuation or attraction. In order for a relationship to last, trust needs be be shared between both partners. Even though it is hard to trust basically everyone, once you find the person you can trust with your life you know that you've found true love

Tasha P said...

I agree with what the Cupid and Psyche story said about trust in relationships. I don't think you can have a very good relationship with anyone without trust. Trust is the basis for relationships.
The story makes everything seem so simple: you need trust to love someone. But in real life it doesn't seem to work like that. In the story, the trust that Cupid and Psyche have was built up very quickly (even after she broke her promise and saw him); after they forgave each other, they had complete trust. But in real life, trust takes time to build. Right now, there are only a handful of people whom I completely trust; and even then I'm not so sure that it's COMPLETE trust. Trust takes time to build, and the myth basically says that trust is pretty easy to come by.

mattw said...

I think that you CAN have love without trust, but it's likely not to last, trust isn't synonymous with love, but is a major part of it. if you don't trust the one you love, it's only going to be so long before before the relationship collapses. If there is love in the relationship, then it is more likely to last. In Cupid and Psyche's case, I think Cupid was being an idiot. It doesn't matter how much you trust someone, if you're sleeping with somebody, they're GOING to want to know what you look like.

Richard M said...

I do not believe one can love somebody without trust. Trust is a key part in making any relationship work, and because Psyche did not uphold her word to cupid, she had to face the consequences. Trust is just another form of maturity and if somebody is not mature, it can make it difficult to love that person.

Cherry M. said...

The story of Psyche and Cupid was an interesting one, though unbelievable. When people are married to each other, they usually have a lot of trust between them and they usually get married in the first place because they love each other. Trust and love tend to come hand in hand but it is possible to have one without the other. For example, I may trust my teachers and co-workers but I'm not necessarily in love with them. And I may love my younger siblings but I may not always trust them because they stole my cookies way-back-when...It is a strange concept, but I think it is plausible.

jlebel said...

Just like Psyche found out, if you are not truthful in a relationship it will cost you. If you breat trust though and you are truely in love you will eventually be forgiven and everything will be okay. This is what happend to Psyche and The God of Love after many years. It is best just to be truthful the one you love in the first place instead of breaking truth and having to prove that you can be trusted again. If Psyche listened to her husbend in the first place and trusted what he was saying about not letting her sisters come then none of that would have happened in the first place.

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